Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit (Proverbs 18:21). So, you have a choice as it relates to finding a soul mate; either speak what you want or speak what you don’t want. In any event, you’re going to have what you say. While the following tips are appropriate for males and females alike, this article targets women.
1. Stop speaking negative words.
Remember the saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? Well, it’s not true. Words kill, steal, and destroy. Unfortunately, your words have set some things in motion. As a result, you keep getting sour grapes.
Do you find yourself saying things like:
· “No one loves me.
· Why doesn’t anyone love me?
· Nothing good comes my way.
· I attract the wrong people.
· I’ll never get married.
· Why would anyone want me?
· Nobody likes me.
· How did she land him?
· What makes her so special?”
These statements, however, convey doubt, envy, unbelief, and a lack of confidence. Additionally, when you say them repeatedly, the momentum builds creating a vacuum. Have you noticed how negative people suck the energy out of a room? Well, defeatist words suck the life out of any project.
Hence, start paying attention to your words. Make it a habit to stop expressing gloom about yourself, others, or what you want. If you must, wear a rubber band around your wrist. Pull it each time you think or talk like a pessimist.
2. Start speaking positive words.
First and foremost, communicate with confidence. Nobody likes a loser or whiner. Besides you run the risk of driving a potential mate away. If you have low self-esteem, raise the bar. Today is a new beginning. Forget what was or hasn’t been.
Still, articulating hopeful words will be harder for some than others. Therefore, I suggest reading self-help books. Listening to sermons or motivational speakers online will also empower you to make the shift.
Second, speak positive words about what you want. Most people have an easier time rattling off what they dislike. Do you know what you want? If your answer is no, stop the presses. Spend some quiet time reflecting. Then, make a list of your heart’s desires. Take your list to the Father in prayer, believe you have it, and then use your words to reel it in.
3. When in doubt, don’t speak.
Let’s be real. No one said that life would be a bed of roses. Consequently, some days bristle with thorns. Moreover, when you’re exhausted (mentally or physically) it’s worse. On those days, refrain from making comments about your situation. You’re more likely to talk despair.
Remember, words create! Your goal is to have what you want. If you speak negative words you will have what you say.
All in all, the words you choose will either snare or support efforts to connect with your soul mate. So, use them wisely.